Made in Chelsea’s Ruby Adler has come under fire for her behaviour after yesterday’s episode of the Channel Four show aired. In the episode, Ruby attended a party and reunited with her ex-boyfriend and MIC co-star Reza Amiri-Garroussi, with whom she shared a relationship for an entire decade. The two broke things off around the ten-year mark after some tumultuous relationship problems, leaving Adler to quickly pursue a relationship with another co-star, Miles Nazaire.
This reconnection leads to her meeting her ex’s potential new girl, Sarrah Jasmin - the latest addition to E4’s Made in Chelsea cast.
While they’re not yet confirmed to be together, Reza and Sarrah have started chatting and appear to be forming a romantic bond. Early in the episode, Sarrah speaks to co-star Emily about her budding relationship with Reza, saying she’s trying to work out if he fancies her, but that she’s noticed his ex - Ruby - watching her Instagram stories without actually following her.
Emily throws this away as harmless nosiness, stating that we all do it with our exes' new flames (true) but clearly, Adler is annoyed by the new relationship.
When the two meet later in the episode, Adler, who works as a modelling agent for Chelsea-based agency Storm, interrupts Sarrah’s attempt to break the ice and introduce herself with ‘if you’re hanging around with Rez, we’re not going to be friends.’ When Sarrah tells her how unkind she’s being, Ruby replies ‘I don’t know what you want me to say, I’m not going to be nice to you.’
Ruby’s treatment of Sarrah has sent social media into a storm, with furious audiences pointing out the cruelty of speaking to Reza’s new girlfriend in this way with tweets like ‘Ruby is such a bully, no idea who she thinks she is’ and ‘Ruby was so cruel to Sarrah! All she wanted was to say hi and break the ice. Hope this gets played back to her and she can feel ashamed of her actions because there was no need!! Especially since last week, she was moaning about Miles and Mavea.’
Some social media users describe feeling the second-hand embarrassment and shame for the way Ruby treated Sarah. One user posted ‘Not Ruby being VILE to this new girl after she publicly embarrassed Rez saying that he “misinterpreted “ her being nice to him as her still liking him & accusing him of “meddling” in her “relationship” with Miles. Girl no’ and another reacted with ‘Ruby should actually be ashamed of herself!!! I'm honestly so angry! U made that woman cry and what's she done wrong!!!! Absolutely nothing!!’
Others have highlighted Ruby as a hypocrite for being jealous of Reza after ‘moving on’ from their relationship so quickly with ‘You mugged your bf of 9 years off so u could shag miles..... Check yourself.’
Another Twitter user shared their anger about this too, writing ‘ruby last week: “miles is mine!” - ruby to the girl her ex starts to move on with after she dumped him on tv: “we won’t be friends if you’re getting with rez” erm??’
Sarrah responds to the situation herself by walking away crying, saying ‘I don’t know why you think it’s funny to be so horrible - It’s not nice to be unkind to people like this.’ And, she’s right.
We’ve all been there, holding back tears and clenching our fists with jealous rage when we see our ex's new girlfriend. And normally, that’s just through a social media platform or conversations through a mutual friend. It’s less common to have to meet ‘the new girl’ and speak with them face to face as Ruby did. Throw in being on camera for the awkward meeting, and you’re bound to have some heightened emotions.
It’s difficult. If your ex is dating someone new, regardless of who the new girl is or how you left things, meeting or hearing about the newbie will suck. No matter how resilient you are, it’s hard to get past the (untrue) idea that you’ve been replaced - that your ex is sleeping with someone else, laughing with someone else, referring to the two of them as a ‘we’ as you once did.
But ultimately, living in your ex’s business is a pretty miserable place to be. As long as you’re not constantly filming a reality show focused on your private life, you don’t need to know or comment on anything to do with your ex’s new life. It’s nothing to do with you.
Let’s break the cycle and actively choose not to hate our ex’s new girlfriends.