Dear Sophie: ‘Should I Tell My Ex He’s Being Cheated On?’

I know my ex-boyfriend’s current girlfriend is cheating on him - with his best friend. Do I tell him?

Disclaimer: I’m not a trained relationship expert - so please, take any advice with a pinch of salt.

Good news: you have three choices. Bad news: you’re going to have to pick one. It all depends on just how the relationship ended.

Number one: the relationship ended as well as it could, you’re over it, you don’t care anymore and you’re living your best life. This is the best position to be in, because now you can just grab the popcorn and let the karma police do their job.

Because there’s a very high chance, if you’re the person to break the bad news that someone has cheated, you’re going to be made a Sündenbock. The scapegoat of the story. The messenger usually gets shot, and your ex might not only get angry with you - but also ignore the news. So, if you feel like you have to tell them: don’t. Even if it’s just to save face.

Unless you want revenge. If your relationship ended badly, and they messed you around in one way or another, then telling them about the scandal might be the moment you’ve been patiently waiting for. But, still, you don’t want to look like a scheming, manipulative character (like Kathryn Merteull from Cruel Intentions, channel your own Kendall Roy{ =nofollow}, and show daddy who’s boss.

If you’re still friends with him, then you have option #3. This could never be me – sadly, I can’t relate - so I had to actually ring a friend and ask for her help. If you really value the person, and your relationship, and you simply can't live with the fact he's currently being fucked over by his girlfriend, then call him and nonchalantly drop the news. But it’s important you say don't want to be involved (LOL), and reassure him that you only want his eternal happiness and you don't want him to be made a fool of. (But don’t be surprised if he later calls by your house in the late PM.)

So, there you have it: three options. Choose wisely. Unless you want to pick option four - the one I’d go for - which would be a public takedown. But beware: someone might end up spitting on your mink.

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