Pam & Tommy: The Real Story Behind Their Whirlwind Wedding

The couple got married after knowing each other for four days

Pamela Anderson & Tommy Lee

by Hanna Woodside |

Before there was Julia Fox and Kanye, before Bennifer, before Brangelina, there was Pam and Tommy, the OG power tabloid celebrity couple back in the nineties. Now that Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee's whirlwind romance has been turned into an eight-part biopic, Pam & Tommy, on Disney+ we're fascinated with them all over again.

How did Pam and Tommy meet?

The pair first met on New Year’s Eve 1994 at the Sanctuary club on Hollywood's Sunset Strip, and the chemistry was instant. “He came up, grabbed me and licked my face,” Pamela said in an interview with Movieline the following year (we see the face-licking in the show, too). “I thought he was a cool, friendly, nice guy. I gave him my number.”

According to Rolling Stone, Tommy bombarded Pam with phone calls and messages and he eventually spoke to her again in February as she was about to fly to Cancun in Mexico to promote Baywatch. Pamela told Movieline that she begged Tommy not to follow her there, but apparently he just said, 'Ok, see you later'.

He did follow her to Cancun, and the pair met up, partying hard for three days straight, during which Tommy proposed and wasting no time, they married the next day on 19 February.

Where did Pam and Tommy get married?

The couple had a barefoot ceremony on a beach in Cancun, with just eight guests in attendance. Pamela wore a white bikini, and Tommy wore shorts. Instead of rings, they had tattoos of each other's name inked onto their ring fingers. After they were announced husband and wife, Tommy thew Pam into the sea in celebration. Pam's mum learned of the marriage from People magazine.

Pam and Tommy's beach wedding
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The couple moved into Tommy's mansion in Malibu, which he was renovating at the time. Refusing to pay his electrician, Rand Gauthier, the disgruntled contractor stole a safe from the couple's garage, which contained the now infamous sex tape made on the couple's honeymoon (although Pam later said in an interview that it “was not a sex tape" but a "compilation of vacations that we were naked on".

How long were Pam and Tommy married?

In February 1998, after three years of marriage, Tommy attacked Pamela kicking her several times. In May 1998, he was charged with spousal abuse and sentenced to six months in prison. That same month, Pamela filed for divorce.

The couple got back together in 2008, but by 2010 the relationship had fallen apart again and they went their separate ways.

Did Pam and Tommy have a baby?

The couple had their first son, Brandon Thomas Lee, in June 1996 and their second son, Dylan Jagger Lee, in December 1997. Now 25, according to his Instagram bio, Brandon is a golfer, investor and owner of a clothing line called Swingers Club Classic. His younger brother Dylan, who is now 24, is a model and musician; he's appeared in campaigns for Acne Studios, Armani Exchange, Dolce & Gabbana, Hugo Boss and True Religion, and his band Midnight Kids released its debut EP 'The Lost Youth' in 2020.

Stream the first three episodes of Pam & Tommy on Disney+ from February 2

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