Another day, another viral Reddit thread..
Forum 'Am I the Asshole' (an online space to find out if you are in the wrong in an argument) was buzzing with over 2,000 comments. The engagement stems from user Icy Reserve 6995 story and question. The user posed the question’ Am I the asshole for deleting my friend’s wedding pictures in front of them?’ Now, this statement without context does sound very savage – but let’s get into the story for a fair understanding.
They explained in the post that a friend of got married a few days ago and he wanted to save money on his wedding day, so asked the user to shoot for them. It’s worth noting - the user is not actually a photographer but a dog groomer. The user takes lots of photos of dogs all day for Facebook and Instagram – so that’s why they asked.
They agreed to the wedding shoot despite that fact it was not the users forte. He convinced them by saying, ‘We don’t care if the pictures are not perfect.’ as they were on a tight budget. The user agreed to the shoot for $250 on a 10-hour shoot – which is nothing.
In the post the photographer wrote, ‘On the day of the wedding, I'm driving around following the bride as she goes from appointment to appointment before the ceremony. Taking photos along the way. I shoot the ceremony itself, and during the reception I'm shooting speeches and people mingling. I started around 11am and was due to finish around 7:30pm. ‘
The next part is what got Reddit users riled up, around 5pm food started being served and was told, ‘You cannot stop to eat because you need to be the photographer.’ The user revealed that they didn’t even save a spot for them at any table.
The photographer writes, ‘I'm getting tired and at this point regretting doing this for next to nothing. It's also unbelievably hot: the venue is in an old veteran's legion and it's like 110F and there's no AC.’
The photographer later told the groom they needed to take 20mins off for something to eat and drink – there was no open bar and her two water bottles were empty. The groom said, ‘ You need to either be photographer, or leave without pay.’
The user wrote, ‘With the heat, being hungry, being generally annoyed at the circumstances, I asked if he was sure, and he said yes, so I deleted all the photos in front of him and took off saying I'm not his photographer anymore.' The user added, ‘I was only being paid $250, honestly at that point I would have paid $250 just for a glass of cold water and somewhere to sit for 5mins.’
The photographer revealed that the couple went straight on their honeymoon, and they've all been off of social media. However, a lot of people have been posting on their Facebook wall asking about photos with zero responses.
Most of Reddit user responses seem to be firmly on the photographers side stating that they are NOT the asshole in the situation.
One user replied writing, ‘Like they seriously expected her to work for 8.5 hours without food, with little water and no break. While let's be honest, she was doing this as a favour and not cause of the money. How did they think this would go? They're going to spin this to make her sound evil.
Another said, ‘A hard, but important, lesson to learn in life is to never issue an ultimatum unless you are ready, willing and able to accept either choice. Too often people are bluffing to get their way but then learn the hard way when said bluff is called.’
This user echoed these comments saying, ‘Imagine telling your "friend" after working 8 hours with no breaks that if they don't keep slaving away for another 2 hours you wouldn't pay them anything. She should not feel bad about this, perfectly reasonable reaction IMO. They were getting a favour done and treated that person like trash?
However, a very rare comment actually disagreed with the photographers’ actions. They said, ‘You shouldn't have deleted the pictures. As satisfying as it is, they should have just left and then when her friend asked about them later should have said she'd sell them the pictures for double or triple the price.’
Right or wrong – that is a completely unacceptable way to treat a friend who is doing you a favour on your wedding day. But with weddings being a once in a lifetime occasion, will the couple ever forgive and forget?
What do you think, is the photographer the asshole?
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