Sometimes, you read a story on Reddit’s Am I The Asshole (AITA) thread and they’re so horrendous you wonder how they can actually be real. And one girl left the internet in a state of shock on Monday as she took to the site to explain how her family had asked her not to be in her sister’s wedding photos because they thought she was ugly.
Slating her own looks, the 17-year-old wrote on the thread: ‘Background info, I am what most people would call unattractive. I have inherited the worst physical traits from both parents. My first cousin, on the other hand, won as far as the genetic lottery goes and is good-looking enough to be a model.
‘I was my sister’s maid of honour,’ she continued. ‘I was supposed to stand beside her for all the wedding pictures… When the photographer announced that he was starting the group pictures, my aunt (cousin’s mum) pulled me aside to “kindly” tell me that it would look better if my cousin stood beside the bride as she would “enhance” the scene.
‘I refused as I was the maid of honour and the bride’s sister. My aunt became angry and told me I was creating a scene, my sister looked uncomfortable but didn’t say anything.’ The girl’s parents had conflicting opinions, while her mum told her to get over it her dad said she shouldn’t have to swap out of the photos.
‘I stood my ground and refused,’ the girl explained, ‘which left my aunt and cousin disgruntled. My mum was furious as she said that I had ruined the pictures because everyone was feeling uncomfortable at the end. My mum and dad are arguing at the moment. AITA?’
Simply put, no. This girl is very much not the asshole here. Her aunt is the person that caused a scene by demanding that the maid of honour move out of the pictures and it’s insensitive and damaging to tell a teenage girlthey’re not pretty enough to be in a family photo.
When you have a group picture at a wedding, the goal isn’t to have the best-looking people in the room by your side. The goal is to be surrounded by the people that love you most and, in this case, that’s clearly the bride’s sister.
‘I don't believe that the argument was staged by my sister because she wanted someone prettier to stand beside her,’ the original poster said in an update. ‘We both love each other very much and she is the best older sister I could ever get.’
But while the OP may have had the support of the bride, she still stood there and said nothing while her mum and aunt allowed a 17-year-old to be made to feel ugly and responsible for the drama that wasn’t her doing.
As one Reddit user put it: ‘It breaks my heart that this young woman feels that she is unattractive and her aunt and her own mother are reinforcing that image. They are worse than arseholes.’
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