Did you know orgasm can be a powerful tool for manifesting your dream life? Since I discovered ‘sexual transmutation’ – the idea that you can harness your sexual energy to achieve goals – I’ve used orgasm to manifest everything, from a new apartment to dream collaborations. I’ve been masturbating with intention regularly for six years now, and it has unlocked a whole new realm of sexual possibility. Sexual energy is the most powerful energy out there. It’s pleasure, creation, and fertility. You’ll be amazed at what you can achieve when you learn to harness it.
My journey to becoming a holistic self-love content creator started fifteen years ago. I was in living in Barcelona, where I still live now, and working in luxury real estate. It was around the time of the credit crunch, and a bad time to be in the property industry. I was working on commission only, with long hours. There was a huge contrast between the amazing apartments I was showing to high profile clients, and my reality - a tiny flat with an empty fridge and no money to travel. I reached rock bottom when there was a rat infestation in my apartment. It was August and really hot, but I had to keep the windows closed. It was a very desperate time.
I’d always dreamed of being a sex blogger. In the past, fear of judgement held me back, but going though such a hard time in my life pushed me to take the plunge. I started writing about sexuality for GQ, before I was hired by EL PAÍS, which is Spain’s biggest newspaper. I was gifted lots of sex toys for review, which led me to make sponsored content on my own personal platforms, including a YouTube channel where I did reviews. I’ve also written four books. Although I loved freelance life, it was very up and down. In 2017, I moved into a different apartment near the beach, which increased my outgoings. It was another difficult time; I was living hand to mouth, and unsure how I was going to pay for my lifestyle. It even crossed my mind that I might have to go back to England again.
Around this time, I started looking into self-help. I first came across the idea of sexual manifestation in the book ‘Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill’ in a chapter called ‘The History of Sex Transmutation.’ At first, I thought: ‘why is there a chapter about sex in a book on personal development?’ I thought I knew a lot about the female orgasm, but it turns out I didn’t know the half of it. The chapter taught me the idea that you can harness your sexual energy to achieve goals. Suddenly, I discovered this whole new meaning to sexuality; it was like a new world had opened up to me.
Masturbation was already part of my job. I put two and two together and decided to combine my masturbation with manifestation. I started immediately. The first thing I thought about as I masturbated was avocados and cashews, because they were expensive. The next day, money arrived in my account that I wasn’t expecting from an invoice I sent months before. I remember thinking: ‘Oh my god, I can buy avocados and cashews now.’ So going to the supermarket to buy them was the first thing that I did. It was a small victory, but a meaningful one.
How do you use the 'O method?'
I’ve always been someone with a very strong imagination, which led me to create my own masturbation technique called Eroticize Your Desire. It combines the law of attraction (the belief that we attract into our lives whatever we focus on) with visualisation techniques and my own orgasmic energy. That doesn’t mean you can’t have a sexual fantasy while you masturbate; it’s just about fuelling the fantasy to make your desired outcome happen.
For example, if you want to move house, imagine you were in your new place already, lying on the bed and receiving the best oral sex of your life. Or maybe you’re unpacking the moving boxes, but you’re naked. If you want a new car, imagine yourself having great sex in that car; the smell of the leather seats, your naked, sweaty skin which sticks to the seats. The more sensorial details you can imagine, the better.
This technique involves a lot of practice, and masturbating with intention takes longer than usual. Thinking about graphs going up and exponential growth isn’t usually the first thing that springs to mind when you masturbate, after all. It was a big learning process, but imagination is one of our biggest gifts. Through this technique, I’ve completely upgraded my life. When I started this journey, I was living in a tiny apartment by the beach. I had no pillow. There was this old mattress cover that I was too afraid to move, because I thought: ‘what’s under here? Who’s been here before me?’ I was so disgusted by it that I was sleeping on an old, folded blanket. My back was in pain, and I didn’t even have a table to sit at. Now, I’ve paid off all my debts, I have five pillows and a luxurious bed. Investing in comfort was one of my first priorities.
I don’t really have a schedule about when I masturbate with intention. I have a high libido, but because I review a lot of sex toys, my orgasms are already related to my work. I manifest through orgasm as and when, and usually solo. While you can do it with a partner, and multiply the magic, I prefer to be mindful and present when I’m with someone else.
Orgasm manifestation can be as simple or ritualistic as you like, depending on how open you are to it. If you’re a naturally sceptical person, it’s worth trying the most basic technique. That’s when, at the moment of orgasm, you make a wish, or focus on a goal, while sending your orgasmic energy into the world. The basis is that sexual energy is very powerful and can help you tap into the co-creative energy of the universe. It’s important to remember that men can also use this technique. It’s a common misconception that men lose sexual energy when they ejaculate, which isn’t true. I know many men, including friends, who are successfully using this method.
I always recommend for people to start small. You can celebrate the small victories, which gives you confidence to manifest big dreams things later on. Sometimes, it can be as simple as asking for a sign from the universe. If you want to make it more of a ritual, you can enhance the practice by journalling, doing a celebratory dance beforehand, using music to set the mood or lighting a candle.
I’ve shared this technique with hundreds of people, who’ve had incredible results. One of my friends didn’t like dating apps and set an intention to meet guys in real life. Afterwards, she was constantly meeting people at Spanish classes and in the streets. Other friends have attracted apartments, job opportunities and money, all through orgasm manifestation.
Even if you don’t feel confident with manifestation, orgasm is a powerful tool for overcoming shame and connecting with the body. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings just for pleasure, so why wouldn’t you want to make use of that? At the very least, you will benefit from some self-love – and have a great time in the process.
As told to Alice Hall