Another day, another absolutely wild AITA Reddit threat – and this time it’s all about a potential ‘bridezilla’: the perfect storm of Reddit content. In a thread posted last weekend, a 33-year-old man wanted to know whether he was an arsehole for kicking all of the women in his family out of his wedding.
On first glance? Yes, absolutely. But wait till you hear the reason why… they all showed up wearing white in order to ‘prank’ the bride.
‘The women in the family [wanted] to pull a prank on my wife by wearing white and called it the "ultimate test" to see how my wife react,’ he wrote in his post. ‘My brother warned me so I announced that if anyone of them showed up in white I'd have them kicked out including mom.
‘They said this wasn't true and they'd never do such thing,’ the poster continued. ‘But they showed up to my wedding one by one wearing white dresses. Each and every one of them was told to leave after they tried giving excuses by either making scenes or getting the men involved.’
My wife was hurt beyond measure.
The man goes on to say that his mum and aunties refused to leave despite also wearing white, and he was forced to physically block their entry to his wedding. Naturally, the bride was devastated by all the chaos.
‘I felt absolutely awful because my wedding was being interrupted by them making scenes,’ he explained. ‘My wife was hurt beyond measure but the women in the family were pissed. My cousin blasted me on social media later saying I excluded all the women from the wedding because my wife was so insecure she couldn't handle another woman's presence at her wedding.’
The OP has since been excluded from family gatherings, despite more than 20,000 people on Reddit agreeing that he is certainly not the arsehole in this situation. But why the women decided to pull the prank bears further questioning, because what on earth would warrant such a mean-spirited idea?
According to the poster, it’s all due to a ‘toxic’ female dynamic in his family. ‘I have a large family [of] mostly aunts and female cousins [as well as my] mom, stepmom, stepsister and grandmother,’ he explained. ‘All of the women are into teasing and joking. They've formed a unit (which I admit is kind of toxic) and they'd tease and roast every new woman that enters the family by marriage by setting up "tests" to see if they deserve to be part of the family. Or roast their looks and styles to the point of breaking confidence and self-esteem down. Then after a few months of teasing they'd announce that they've finally welcomed them into the family.’
Ahh, good old, internalised misogyny – enough to turn any matriarchal family into a girlfriends worst nightmare. According to the man, the women claim there’s ‘nothing hurtful’ about their pranks and roasting – despite admitting that he caught his family trolling his partners appearance and job on Facebook – insisting it’s all done in service of the men in the family, to ensure ‘the women who enter the family are decent’.
That’s a lot of words to say you hate other women. Naturally, the comment section of the post is flooded with support for the husband for standing up for his wife, comparing the prank to ‘bullying’. Frankly, we agree – it’s not a joke if you’re the only one laughing.