How Meghan Markle Healed A Long Term Royal Rift

The Duchess of Sussex is changing the royal family, one step at a time

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by Katie Rosseinsky |
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After 16 days and 76 official engagements, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s tour of Australia and New Zealand finally drew to a close last week.

By all accounts, it was one of the most successful royal tours in recent memory. Meghan, in particular, was widely praised after she gave an empowering speech on female suffrage in New Zealand (during which she refrained from using notes and spoke Maori). Then, in a moving moment, the Duchess was seen having a surprise meeting with a 20-year-old student who she had once counselled on Instagram (way before she met Prince Harry) to ‘work hard and be herself’.

But despite the positive headlines on tour, which also saw Meghan navigate the early stages of pregnancy, the pair returned home to a slew of less-than-favourable stories about their extended family. And for once, they weren’t about Meghan’s father. Just days before the tour ended, news erupted of an explosive new biography about Prince Charles (Charles At Seventy: Thoughts, Hopes And Dreams) by royal commentator and Grazia contributor Robert Jobson.

He followed the Prince of Wales and his closest associates around the world for 18 months to gather information for the book. Among his claims was the revelation that there has long been a ‘froideur’ between Princes William and Harry and their father. According to sources, that distance has only recently come to an end thanks to the arrival of Meghan (more on which later).

‘To this day,’ Robert writes in the biography, ‘Charles admits he often finds it difficult to gauge either of his sons’ occasionally unpredictable moods. Both boys blame Charles for being absent through much of their childhood.’

In an exclusive interview with Grazia last week, the royal writer said, ‘The sons have had difficulties with Charles, which the public may be surprised to know. In particular, I know that he was upset and wounded when he wasn’t mentioned as someone who had raised his children in a documentary, Diana, Our Mother: Her Life And Legacy last year. There were also tensions over Diana, with the way that the boys’ mother has been perceived to have been treated.’

Yet, say experts, the princes’ relationship with their father has finally thawed. So much so that Prince Harry gave a moving and warm speech on his father’s 70th birthday this year – to the surprise of many. The reason? Meghan, who is said to have ‘transformed’ the prince’s relationship with Charles and finally brought the pair closer together.

‘Meghan has certainly helped,’ said Robert. ‘She is someone who has been divorced, and who has had family issues herself. She has made Harry look at things from a different perspective, and has shown him that relationships aren’t always black and white with parents or family. Plus, she gets on very well with the Prince of Wales. She has improved the relationship and built bridges between them. In a way, she has been a peacemaker.’

According to a second source, Meghan’s impact on Harry’s character has also helped heal divisions. ‘Meghan has really changed Harry,’ said the royal insider. ‘In the short time that they’ve been together, she’s made him far more emotional and open about his feelings. She actively indulges in the idea that he’s a boy who grew up without a mother and that attitude helps.'

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Meghan Markle Australia Tour Outfits - Grazia

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Day 1

For the first stop on the royal itinerary, Meghan chose a cream shift dress by Australian designer Karen Gee, paired with Princess Diana's butterfly earrings.

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Day 1

For an afternoon reception, the Duchess changed into a khaki shirt dress by US designer Brandon Maxwell, thought to be priced at £1,728.

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Day 2

For a Wednesday visit to the rural city of Dubbo, Meghan wore the 'Serena' Boss oversized blazer, designed by her friend Serena Williams (which costs $203, or £109) with a pair of black high-rise jeans by Australian brand The Outland, which cost $199, a Maison Kitsune button-down collar shirt for $75 and ankle boots by J.Crew, which cost $318.

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Day 3

For the third day of the tour on October 18 Harry and Meghan visited Melbourne, the Duchess wore the 'Folded Sail' Navy Dress by Dion Lee and Manolo Blahnik BB Pumps in Navy.

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Day 4

For her first outfit of day four, Meghan more a £1,080 Martin Grant Maxi Dress which is no longer available to buy, and a pair of Castaner Wedges which she kicked off to walk in the sand on Bondi Beach

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Day 4

For her second outfit of day four, the Duchess wore the 'Athena' Midi Dress by Roksanda, and a pair of Stuart Weitzman 'Legend' Pumps to visit Macarthur Girls School

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Day 5

For the opening of the enhanced Anzac Memorial Meghan wore a black Emilia Wickstead dress and a pillbox style hat by Philip Treacy.

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Day 5

In the afternoon of Day 5 Meghan changed into a white Altuzarra 'Acacia' blazer and black skinny jeans by LA label, Mother. She finished the look with Illesteva sunglasses and Tabitha Simmons 'Millie' heels.

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Day 6

For a lunchtime reception hosted by Australian Prime Minister Scott Morrison Meghan wore a pinstriped white blazer by Californian brand L'Agence. She also wore her favourite Aquazzura Deneuve Bow Pumps and striped cross-body Orton bag.

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Day 6

Meghan and Prince Harry take in the sailing segment of the Invictus Games tournament. For this windswept occassion, Meghan wore a fashionable pair of Veja trainers, which likely marks one of the first occasions this royal has stepped out in public in sneakers. She paired the shoes with a pair of dark jeans, likely from Outland or Mother denim and an official merchandise jacket.

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Day 7

Meghan picked sustainable Los Angeles label Reformation's Pineapple dress for a walkabout visit of Fraser Island.

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Day 8

Meghan Markle left Australia wearing a white linen J Crew shirt (coming in at just £79.50), her Outland black skinny jeans, and Aquazurra DJ mules (£468).

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Day 8

The Duchess arrived in Fiji wearing white dress by Australian brand Stephen Zimmerman, with a matching white hat from Stephen Jones. She was also wearing a pair of earrings that were given to her by the Queen (and first seen when the pair visited Chester together) and a bracelet given to her by Prince Charles.

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Day 8

For her first state dinner at Fiji's Grand Hotel, the Duchess wore a caped gown by British label Safiyaa in Fijian blue, complete with earrings borrowed from the royal vaults. No tiara, though - that's because a state dinner is a black tie occasion (unlike a state banquet) and so tiaras are not required. Good to know.

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Day 9

For her second day in Fiji, the Duchess opted for a wrap dress in a floral print by Figue from Shopbop, paired with some Castaler espadrilles - and a traditional Fijian garland. She also carried a woven clutch bag, made by talented Fijian craftswomen as part of a UN initiative.

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Day 9

For Meghan and Harry's final evening in Fiji, the coupel met with the King of Tonga. The Duchess wore an ivory cap-sleeved beaded silk satin column dress by Theia with Birks earrings, Aquazzura pumps, a Givenchy clutch and an aquamarine ring that belonged to Princess Diana.

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Day 10

For a commemorative ceremony to remember a British-Fijian soldier, Sergeant Talaisasi Labalaba, which was attended by the President of Fiji, Meghan wore a Jason Wu sheath dress, Manolo Blahnik suede navy pumps, Pippa Small earrings and bangles with a Christian Dior satin clutch.

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Day 10

Meghan stepped off the plane in Tonga in a custom scarlet Self-Portrait dress, Manolo Blahnik navy suede heels and a bespoke Christian Dior clutch.

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Day 11

For the unveiling of The Queen's Commonwealth Canopy at Tupou College Meghan wore a blue shirt dress by the American designer Veronica Beard.

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Day 11

In the evening Meghan wore a tulle Oscar De La Renta gown for the Australian Geographic Society Gala Awards in Sydney.

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Day 12

While attending the Wheelchair Basketball Final at the Invictus Games Meghan wore a wrap top by Australian designer Scanlan Theodore.

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Day 12

For the Invictus closing ceremony Meghan wore a khaki halter dress by Antonio Berardi.

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Day 13

As Meghan and Harry bid farewell to Australia the Duchess wore a BOSS by Hugo Boss dress with Aquazzura Casablanca heels and a Cuyana mini bag.

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Day 13

Meghan visits the Pukeahu National War Memorial Park in Wellington wearing an ASOS dress, plaid trench by Karen Walker and pumps by Sarah Flint.

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Day 14

Meghan wore Stella McCartney x Adidas Grosgrain-Trimmed Faux Leather Sneakers, black 'Harriet' skinny jeans by Outland Denim and a blue weatherproof jacket, suspected to be by Seasalt Cornwall, for a walk in Abel Tasman National Park, Wellington.

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Day 14

The royals visited Courtnay Creative in Wellington for an event celebrating the city's thriving arts scene. Meghan wore a white sleeveless blazer dress by Maggie Marilyn for the occasion.

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Day 15

Attending an event for the Queen's Commonwealth Canopy, Meghan wore J. Crew jeans paired with a Karen Walker blazer and a simple top from Lavender Hill Company.

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Day 15

Visiting the Pillars charity in Auckland, Meghan paired a custom cream shift dress from US designer Brandon Maxwell with her Burberry trench and Stuart Weitzman's 'Legend' pumps.

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Day 15

For a formal reception hosted by New Zealand's Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern, Meghan opted to re-wear the navy Antonio Berardi dress that she debuted back in 2017, at her first (albeit unofficial) public outing with Prince Harry.

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Day 16

Meghan paired a bespoke Stella McCartney dress with Manolo Blahnik pumps and Boh Ranga earrings to viist a Rotorua, a town central to Maori culture.

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Day 16

Meghan wore her beloved Manolo Blahnik pumps a bespoke Givenchy sweater and pleated skirt for the final day of the royal tour.

It comes as Meghan and Harry approach their six-month anniversary – time that has been filled with royal engagements, Meghan’s first solo trip and appearances with the wider royal family. Last week, there were reports that Meghan has, at times, slipped up, as she has navigated the difficult job of entering the royal family – and winning over the British public. One report claimed that she was perceived to have ‘disrespected’ the Queen after she failed to wear a hat during her first solo trip with the monarch in May, despite being quietly told to do so. Then, on home turf, an eyebrow-raising story emerged that in her first marriage Meghan had asked her former husband Trevor Engelson, a TV producer, to sign a ‘pregnancy contract’, stipulating that he pay for a personal trainer and nutritionist to help her ‘stay in shape’. It follows near ceaseless headlines this summer concerning her extended family, from her father Thomas Markle admitting that he had lied to (and then hung up on) Prince Harry regarding those staged paparazzi pictures, to her half-sister Samantha Markle publicly criticising her, before turning up at Kensington Palace with a mask of Meghan’s face.

‘As a result of the betrayals in her family, Meghan has maintained an impeccably private social circle,’ said a source. ‘At times, Harry has felt worried that she is not opening up to his circle. With all the press attention, she won’t let anyone in – even his best friends who he has trusted for years. She far prefers to hang out with her own Hollywood circle who she feels she can trust.’

Another source added, ‘Despite Meghan’s apparent confidence, she has been incredibly nervous – especially when it’s come to public engagements. People close to her say she was nervous stepping into the public arena as a royal, and was particularly concerned about how she was going to be received. She’s aware that she’s a different kind of royal and she has, at times, feared that she wouldn’t be accepted by the British public.’

But despite any summer difficulties, Robert, who travelled to Australia and New Zealand with Harry and Meghan during their recent tour, was among those last week to confirm reports that Meghan had passed her first tour with flying colours. ‘She’s very slick and polished as a performer,’ he said. ‘She seems to be doing a very good job. It’s early days, but it’s been a very successful tour. I don’t think she put a foot wrong.’

Now, all eyes are on the pair as they resume their life together back home. And there will be a new way of operating for the young royals: according to a report last week, Harry and William now plan to formally ‘split their courts’ as they increasingly focus on their marriages with their wives and young families.

‘Harry and William are naturally focusing on their marriages, and will pursue their own projects,’ said a source. ‘The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are keen to forge their own path.’

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