I’m A Celebrity: Forcing A Woman To Do What You Want Is Not Chivalry

I’m A Celebrity’s James Haskell caused a stir last night when he demanded Kate Garraway stop contesting his wish to make her life easier in the name of ‘chivalry’.

Kate Garraway

by Georgia Aspinall |
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We’re one week into I’m A Celebrity…Get Me Out Of Here! and last night proved that tensions are rapidly rising in the camp. Most notably, when James Haskell got frustrated because Kate Garraway wouldn’t accept his attempts at ‘chivalry’.

The incident occurred when the group were told they were participating in a live challenge to win roast dinners for each person. But there was a twist, the roast dinners would be issued in order of names on a list – with campmates deciding who would go in what order.

When Garraway attempted to put Haskell on top since he has been leading the camp, a number of the men contested her, saying that the women should go first. Putting four of the women in the top four spots, Garraway again attempted to put Haskell before her own name but she was shouted down by both Haskell and Ian Wright for being ‘too nice’.

‘Can we just agree moving forward on these things, I’m more comfortable and I think every man here is, that women go first. So can we cut out that nonsense?’ Haskell said to Garraway. As she began to argue, he continued to shout over her: ‘Don’t fight it, we want to do it, you fight every time, just go with it, all of us want to do it.’

‘That is chivalrous nonsense,’ Garraway replied. ‘Maybe I feel that you should go first, I’m allowed to have a view as well.’

Naturally, Haskell got his way – because there’s nothing more chivalrous than forcing women to do what you want, right? And while he was satisfied in his honourability as a man, many viewers took to Twitter to contest that he was being anything but noble.

‘I appreciate chivalry like James is trying to show, but I can’t STAND the fact that he was so aggressively insistent that he wouldn’t even let Kate speak,’ one user tweeted. ‘Offer a chivalrous act but be prepared to be turned down and all will be happy. Equality and understanding. #ImACeleb’

‘Angry, aggressive chivalry really isn’t chivalry is it? #ImACeleb,’ another added.

Now, let’s get one thing straight. There is absolute value in men putting women first. Not because men are stronger or better, but because the immense privilege they experience in life means women should get a helping hand where possible. However, there is also value in respecting women when they don’t want your help.

Forcing help on a woman, especially aggressively, is not chivalry – it’s disrespecting her autonomy for your own validation. Haskell was clearly putting his own need to be seen as noble above Garraway’s personal wishes. So much so, he was even told to let it go by other campmates when he continued to hammer his point home.

Garraway might have been sacrificing her own happiness in an attempt to be polite – but that was her decision. To take that away from her and put your opinion about respecting women above hers – you know, the women your attempting to show respect to – is not chivalry at all. In fact, it’s actually pretty sexist.

Clearly, there’s a fine line between chivalry and misogyny – and shouting at a woman to force your own agenda, that’s definitely crossing it.

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Ian Wright

Former footballer and Match of the Day pundit Ian Wright is heading into the jungle. Ian Wright is rumoured to be earning the second-highest wage of £400,000 while in the jungle. But during an appearance at the Royal Concert hall in Nottingham last week, Harry Redknapp, last year's King of the Jungle, revealed Wright would be earning one million as someone tweeted: "Just got home from seeing @Redknapp in Nottingham. Interestingly, he let slip that Ian Wright has been paid £1m to appear on this year's #ImaCeleb."

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Nadine Coyle

Girls Aloud singer Nadine Coyle will be facing her fears on the show. What Nadine will be earning has been kept quiet for now, however, the average amount that stars of I'm A Celebrity earn is between £10,000 and £80,000.

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Myles Stephenson

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Kate Garraway

She's used to putting up with Piers Morgan on Good Morning Britain, so the jungle should be a doddle for TV presenter Kate Garraway. Kate's co-presenter Ben Shepard teased Kate on Good Morning Britain: "I can't wait for you to go away for a month," and Kate responded: "I can neither confirm nor deny."

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James Haskell

He's used to being the hard man on a rugby pitch, so how will James Haskell cope in a jungle full of creepy crawlies? Although we can't confirm what James Haskell will be pulling in, last year's contestant John Barrowman received £200,000.

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Caitlyn Jenner

Reportedly the highest paid star to ever grace the jungle, Kylie and Kendall Jenner's dad Caitlyn is set to reveal some major Kardashian gossip.

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Jacqueline Jossa

Former EastEnders star Jacqueline Jossa will be hoping to follow in the footsteps of past soap stars on the show. Bosses are reportedly hoping she dishes the dirt on her on'/off marriage to reality star Dan Osborne.

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Adele Roberts

Big Brother 3 star Adele Roberts is going back to her reality TV roots for the 2019 series.

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Roman Kemp

Roman is a TV personality and son of former EastEnders actor Martin Kemp. He's set to bring some eye candy to the jungle. Roman has wanted to go into the jungle for quite some time as he told Digital Spy in 2017: "The only reality show I would do is I'm A Celebrity... Get Me Out of Here! purely because I would get a holiday and get to see Ant & Dec every day!"

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Andrew Maxwell

Irish comedian Andrew is set to bring the laughs to the jungle and we actually can't wait. There has been no details referring to what Andrew could be earning, yet latecomer Noel Edmunds earned £600,000, the highest amount that has been paid to any celebrity on the show.

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Andrew Whyment

Coronation Street star Andy Whyment AKA Kirk Sutherland is a late arrival into the jungle!

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Cliff Parisi

Former EastEnders star and current Call The Midwife actor Cliff Parisi is a late arrival alongside Andy Whyment!

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