Anyone who's been through a break up will know that one of the biggest difficulties is just not knowing how to deal. Your mates will tell you that there's no right or wrong way (although maybe avoid stalking them on social media for a little while, at least) but there's always that little part of you that wishes that there actually was a correct way to go about it. That there was a handy pocket sized rulebook detailing the dos and don'ts of moving on with your life when you're not entirely sure that it’s exactly what you want to do.
It’s all a bit complicated and very, very shit. And I'm sorry to say that we haven't found the magic formula just yet. But what we have discovered is a new app that might be able to help you get through the whole debacle.
Mend describes itself as ‘your personal trainer for heartbreak’. And before you ask, it’s more than just an app that tells you not to text your ex at 3.17am (please don’t do that, though), it’s an online community too.
Created by ex-Google staffer Ellen Huerta, who's inspiration for the app came from searching for advice on handling with her own break-up, reports the New York Times, Mend guides you through how to deal with all the feels you’ve been feeling one step at a time. The idea is that you listen to short audio clips every day as part of a '28-Day Heartbreak Cleanse' and then your progress is tracked along the way.
You’ll be prompted to answer questions about how you’re feeling to ‘help you reflect’ and if you ever feel like you're alone, floating around in the middle of this newly single shit storm, there are loads of stories from fellow broken hearted souls to read and relate to as well as advice from the 'Mender' community.
The app is clear to note that it’s ‘not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, treatment, medical treatment, psychotherapy, counselling, or mental health services’ though - on step one of the sign up process Mend asks if you're in an emergency. So you're right in thinking that no, it's not going to magically solve any underlining medical or mental health problems that you might be experiencing on top of your shitty break-up. Always seek professional help from your GP if you're ever concerned about that sort of thing. But it might be the virtual helping hand you need to move forward.
And if you're umm-ing and ah-ing about whether or not to try it because you're like, so above relying on a silly app that doesn't even know the real you so can't possibly fix your one of a kind broken heart (...just me?), it might just be worth setting scepticism aside for a minute. Or for, I don't know, 7 days or so. The first week of Mend is free and hey, anything's better than moping over your ex's latest Instagram post, let me tell ya.
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This article originally appeared on The Debrief.