The perks of having a close relationship with your siblings is that they can tell you some harsh truths that your friends might be too scared to say. And one man has taken to Reddit’s Am I The Assholethread (AITA) to check whether he took his honesty too far when he told his brother why women were running away from him. Spoiler: It’s because of his personality.
‘I have three older siblings. Diana (43), Sebastian (37) and Jake (32). I'm closer to Jake than Diana or Sebastian,’ the original poster [OP] explained. ‘I never really talked with Sebastian [but] he claims the reason people (and mostly women) reject him are his looks.’
‘I mean he's okay,’ he continued. ‘A little bald a little overweight, but also very very grumpy and noisy. He thinks Jake and I are stupid just because of how we look,’ he added, explaining that he and Jake are academic but because they work out Sebastian sees them as less intelligent.
‘I've been laughing at his disrespect and resent for years,’ the OP continued. ‘But now that I'm a bit older, I just cut him off and move away from him, it's sad because he's my brother and I want a relationship, but meh.’
Things took a turn for the worse when the OP introduced a girl he was seeing to his family when he picked her up from her parents’ house. After meeting her, Sebastian sent the OP’s date a series of bizarre messages on Facebook calling her ‘beautiful’ and asking her out.
‘He said he knew we weren't serious or official and asked her on a date,’ the OP said. ‘20 minutes later he asked if she was there, 10 minutes later he asked her not to show me the text, and 10 minutes later he spent the next 20 minutes insulting her until she blocked him. We agreed to not tell him anything because she said she didn't care and that was all.
‘I broke up with them and removed myself from the house,’ the OP continued. 'Sebastian is also living here and when I went through the door, he laughed at me, calling me a “kicked out Chad” and that even when I look “like a little Jake” I still got broken up with and now I know how he feels when people reject him for his looks.
‘I just rolled my eyes and said that his looks aren't the reason women run from him,’ the OP said. Rather [it’s] his creepy personality and to remember the texts he sent to [my ex] a few months ago. He got red in the face and my mom said that I was rude because Sebastian is already having a bad time being his age and living at home.’
As many Reddit users pointed out on the thread, blaming his looks on women not wanting to talk to him is giving Sebastian troubling incel energy. While the OP’s delivery might have been blunt, Sebastian definitely needed some dating advice and to acknowledge that his behaviour with his brother’s date was invasive and just pretty treacherous.
This mostly sounds like sibling rivalry. But if Sebastian realises that successfully dating someone involves much more than just surface level attraction, he might be happier too.