Say 'female orgasm' think When Harry Met Sally ‘I’ll have what she’s having' vibes. It’s not mentioned in sex education, often first discovered by accident or through a hell of a lot of trial and error. There’s no doubt when you’ve unlocked it, but the road to achieving an orgasm can be long and winding.
Everyone knows that there’s a bit of a gap when it comes to how often heterosexual men orgasm compared to heterosexual women. And, somewhat frustratingly the female orgasm is often described as ‘elusive’, which encourages the notion that they’re the stuff of sexual urban myth.
Well, a new study from researchers in America suggeststhat there are, in fact, concrete ways of increasing your chances of achieving one.
The research, published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour, looked at data from more than 52,000 people aged between 18 and 65. It found that a combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing and oral sex is what will henceforth be known as the ‘golden trio’ for increasing the likelihood of a woman reaching orgasm.
95% of heterosexual men surveyed said reported that they usually or always had an orgasm during sexually intimate moments, just 65% of heterosexual women did. By contrast, the figure was 89% for gay men, 86% for lesbian women, 88% for bisexual men and 66% for bisexual women, according to the survey.
However, the report’s authors say that this could be, partly, because women take turns at inducing orgasms and stress that this information was based on reasonably small samples.
Interestingly, according to the research, only 35% of heterosexual women always or usually orgasm during vaginal sex alone, with 44% saying they rarely or never did. By contrast, 80% of heterosexual women and 91% of lesbians always or usually orgasm with a combination of genital stimulation, deep kissing and oral sex – but without vaginal sex.
Sometimes you might have to put in the work on your hunt for an orgasm, but we’re not talking about snow leopards here. Sightings of female orgasms are hardly a scarce, biannual occurrence, you just have to know what you’re looking for and how to find it.
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This article originally appeared on The Debrief.