If there’s one thing we know for certain, weddings cause unrivalled amounts of drama. And it appears that impromptu ceremonies are no exception as one woman has taken to the Am I The Asshole (AITA) Reddit thread to see if she’s in the wrong for accidentally wearing white to her cousin’s surprise wedding. Oops.
‘[A] few weeks ago, I got a last-minute invite to the christening of my cousin and her husband’s baby,’ she explained. Her cousin and her husband had previously eloped and had spoken about having a ceremony at a later date, although they never specified when and had discussed with her how they didn’t want to ‘rush’ it.
‘They have a baby, who’s now nine months old,’ the original poster [OP] continued. ‘The christening was on Saturday…only it wasn’t JUST a christening. They also had a surprise wedding ceremony and reception…None of us were aware and everyone was surprised.’
‘At christenings in my country there’s no rule about outfit colours,’ she made clear. ‘Nothing bands you from wearing white – there’s no rule for that. So, I wore a white dress with some pink details.’
This is fine for a christening but, obviously, a massive faux pas for a wedding. And the OP wasn’t the only one who’d been caught up in the accidental outfit drama: ‘It was me and a couple of other girls who wore white and at first everyone totally ignored us,’ she wrote. ‘Once the surprise wedding happened everyone started looking at us judgementally as if we did it on purpose.’
And how did the bride react? ‘My cousin was cold with me the entire time,’ explained the OP. ‘She’d barely look [or] speak to me…She said that she won’t take responsibility for the negative attention me and the other girls who wore white received and we should be more careful in the future.’
To make matters worse, the OP’s cousin said in a message the morning after the nuptials that she’d been completely thoughtless to opt for white on the big day and that she should have worn another colour to ‘play it safe’ in case of a surprise ceremony.
Obviously, this is completely unreasonable. If you’ve been invited to a christening, you assume you’re going to a christening… not a wedding. As one Reddit user put it: ‘[You’re] clearly not the asshole. You had no idea it was a wedding and it’s very common for people to wear white to summer christenings… If she wanted a dress code she should have let people know in advance— A surprise ceremony is lovely but [it] means stuff like this arises.’