I’m pushing for something vital to be part of the domestic abuse legislation that’s up for debate in Parliament. Currently, the law doesn’t protect all women living in the UK; it misses out some of the most vulnerable. If you come here as a student and get together with someone who [beats the crap out of you](https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/opinion/hiding-domestic-violence-answer/-answer/), you have no recourse to public funds so you can’t go to a refuge. The same applies to any migrant woman who isn’t here on a spousal visa. I’m campaigning for our domestic violence policies to apply to all women.
Right now, we’re leaving women with no choice but to go back to [violent partners](https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/real-life/domestic-emotional-abuse/l-abuse/). Those women die; I read out their names in Parliament each year. Many will be migrants who had nowhere else to go. One woman I know called the police when her partner threatened to kill her, but they took her to an immigration detention centre. An American woman here on a work visa needed to escape her partner, but was told she had to go back to him or be homeless that night.
Every woman I know has suffered violence, myself included. Whether it’s sexual assault, coercion or being violently attacked, we’ve all experienced it. I’ve been sexually assaulted and harassed at work; I’ve had boyfriends who belittled and controlled me. As a teenager, I suffered huge amounts of coercion.
Women in Parliament have to work twice as hard to make sure there’s always a female voice in debates, as there are fewer of us. The best thing about Parliament is the sorority among women across parties. You can always find someone who’ll give you a hug if you feel low. Generally, though, the atmosphere now is hideous because of Brexit. It’s like being at a family funeral where everyone’s having a row.
Being a woman in Westminster is very high-pressured and, like every woman in the workplace, we’re our own worst enemies. We constantly say, ‘I’m not sure this is right’ or ‘Stop me if this is stupid.’ We feel guilty about being away from our kids and guilty that we’re not good enough at work because we want to spend time with them. We feel lesser, and we have to constantly fight that. Being in the public eye, those thoughts aren’t just in your head, they’re everywhere you go. People frequently suggest I’m not a good mother, or they ask how I cope with children. No one asked David Cameron how he was cracking on with his kids and he had a baby while he was elected. I’m constantly trying to fight against my own internalised socialisation that I don’t deserve to be here.
Read more: inspiring female MPs who are making a difference
Inspiring Female MPs - Grazia
1 of 10Danielle Rowley, 28, Midlothian Scottish Labour MP
Speaking about her groundbreaking announcement, Danielle perfectly highlighted just how ridiculous it is that it's even a taboo to mention your period. She said on Twitter:'A lot of unexpected coverage of me talking about my period - which is great, but also highlights the need to talk about periods more openly.A woman mentioning her period shouldn't be such huge news - let's use this opportunity and work together to get to a place where it's not!'
2 of 10Jess Phillips, 36, Birmingham Yardley Labour MP
Jess brought social media trolls to account when she called for those who post abusive messages online to lose their anonymity. The MP told parliament that she once received 600 rape threats in one night and is threatened with violence and aggression every single day online. The online community is so hostile towards women that Amnesty International have led a campaign calling for Twitter to take greater responsibility for preventing online abuse. Jess told the House of Commons that people should have to disclose their real identity to social media platforms, with hope that it would not only deter people from abusing women online but also enable us to hold them to account.
3 of 10Heidi Allen, 43, South Cambridgeshire Conservative MP
Heidi, alongside Jess Phillips, shared an emotional account of her own abortion with parliament earlier this month. In an attempt to reform Northern Ireland's abortion laws, she told the Cambridge independent that she felt she needed to share her story:'I had intended to say it because I had a feeling nobody else would.'I thought it probably needed saying.'I suppose it is very easy to make issues like that just about procedure and legislation and words and policy but, actually, it is about people's lives.'Jess Phillips too opened up about her own abortion, also sharing harrowing stories from women in Northern Ireland who had terminated pregnancies.
4 of 10Stella Creasy, 41, Walthamstow Labour MP
The original lead of cross-party calls for Northern Ireland's abortion laws to be brought in line with the rest of the UK's, Stella received tons of hate mail over her campaign to protect women's right to choose. It was in her call for debate over abortion that Heidi Allen and Jess Philips were able to talk about their own terminations.
5 of 10Penny Mourdant, 45, Portsmouth North Conservative MP
The Minister for Women and Equalities, Penny Mourdant launched the National Action Plan on Women, Peace and Securitywhich calls for more women to be at the centre of the DFID's peace, security and humanitarian programmes. As secretary of state for international development, she has attempted to reform the aid sector by creating an independent safeguarding unit that prevents exploitation. This comes in the wake of a series of sex scandals against leading charities earlier this year.
6 of 10Wera Hobhouse, 58, Bath Liberal Democrat MP
Wera Hobhouse brought Gina Martin's upskirting campaign to parliament as a private members bill set to outlaw the vile crime. While the bill was subsequently blocked by two male MPs, a third reading of the bill is set to continue on the 6th of July with Gina stating 'the Government Bill will become law as it'll get through the later stages more quickly and won't be objected to.'
7 of 10Maria Miller, 54, Basingstoke Conservative MP
It was off the back of the upskirting bill that Maria Miller and Jess Phillips have met with Wera Hobhouse in an attempt to include a revenge porn amendment. It would ensure there was a blanket ban on voyeuristic images regardless of the intention in taking it, as the MPs feared people would attempt to bend the wording of the upskirting law to avoid conviction by arguing they took the image with no intention of causing distress. They also wanted to introduce an amendment that would ban false pornographic images, in which faces are photoshopped onto explicit images. However, they were told it was impossible to introduce further amendments. This comes after Love Island stars Zara McDermott and Laura Anderson became victims of revenge porn this week.
8 of 10Mhairi Black, Paisley and Renfrewshire South SNP MP
As part of the discussion about classing misogyny as a hate crime, Mhairi Black spoke out about the misogynistic and homophobic abuse she receives online every day. She also asked parliament to reflect on their own environment, stating, 'Only a few weeks ago I was physically pressed up against a Member (of Parliament) in the voting lobby who is accused of sexual misconduct because there's so little room.'Acknowledging she has the 'same right and influence as any other elected man', she spoke up for the female staff who aren't in her position.
9 of 10Melanie Onn, 39, Great Grimsby Labour MP
Leading the charge to make misogyny a hate crime, Melanie highlighted the 'link between low-level harassment of women and more serious sexual assaults' that was found by Westminster's all-party group on domestic violence. In her constituency, the rate of domestic violence is particularly high. As a result, she has called for a law change to have misogynistic acts such as wolf-whistling, leering and sexual comments in public to be made a criminal offence.
10 of 10Monica Lennon, 37, Central Scotland Scottish Labour MSP
Monica introduced a Member's Bill into Scottish parliament that would see the creation of free universal access to sanitary products. Proposing also that schools, colleges and universities provide free sanitary products in their toilets, she led the campaign that stands to end period poverty in Scotland.