Parenting. It's a full time job. And despite the sleep deprivation, constant nappy changes and near-constant anxiety, you're expected to combine it with your paid job too.
Yesterday, Kiwi politician Tamati Coffey got a helping hand on that front. Having just returned from paternity leave, Coffey was sitting nearby the speaker of the house, Trevor Mallard, who supported the new dad by bottle feeding his baby during a parliamentary debate.
Mallard tweeted 'Normally the speaker's chair is only used by presiding officers but today a VIP took the chair with me' which was met by a chorus of approval from other Twitter users.
Responding in support, one wrote 'Thank you for normalizing the family unit' while another said 'New Zealand...you might be a small country*, but you have a huge lesson to teach the world!'
*New Zealand is actually pretty huge in terms of land mass, so we're assuming they mean small in comparative population terms.
There's definitely a debate to be had about over-praising fathers for basic parenting while mothers are often unfairly chastised for bringing their children into work. But the optics of Mallard bottle feeding a newborn during a political debate are important.
It was only recently that the image of Tulip Siddiq arriving in a wheelchair to vote on Brexit- after delaying her caesarean section - became the catalyst to introduce proxy voting for MPs in a similar situation.
By 2019 you would hope that we wouldn't have to keep seeing examples of how parents -especially mothers and heavily pregnant women- are often discriminated against in the working world in order for changes to be made. But at least the phenomenon is having an impact.
Especially when women still have to express milk in office loos, the take up of shared maternity/paternity leave is still at only 2% and breastfeeding mothers are still publicly called out because society is more ok with boobs being revealed sexually as opposed to... well being used for their original intended purpose.
The more exposure that there is for the pressures of raising a family and having a full-time job, the better. Especially considering that in 2017, the ONS released statistics showing that around 65% percent of mothers with young children work full time (up 10% from the last two decades) but New Zealand seems to consistently be setting a good example - last year Jacinda Adern made history by being the first world leader to bring her baby into parliament.
But parliament in New Zealand have proved that they're ahead of the curve when it comes to giving parents flexibility in the workplace (with this and Jacinda Ardern - it's safe to say we're really into New Zealand at the moment).
Inspiring Female MPs - Grazia (slider)
1 of 10Danielle Rowley, 28, Midlothian Scottish Labour MP
Speaking about her groundbreaking announcement, Danielle perfectly highlighted just how ridiculous it is that it's even a taboo to mention your period. She said on Twitter:'A lot of unexpected coverage of me talking about my period - which is great, but also highlights the need to talk about periods more openly.A woman mentioning her period shouldn't be such huge news - let's use this opportunity and work together to get to a place where it's not!'
2 of 10Jess Phillips, 36, Birmingham Yardley Labour MP
Jess brought social media trolls to account when she called for those who post abusive messages online to lose their anonymity. The MP told parliament that she once received 600 rape threats in one night and is threatened with violence and aggression every single day online. The online community is so hostile towards women that Amnesty International have led a campaign calling for Twitter to take greater responsibility for preventing online abuse. Jess told the House of Commons that people should have to disclose their real identity to social media platforms, with hope that it would not only deter people from abusing women online but also enable us to hold them to account.
3 of 10Heidi Allen, 43, South Cambridgeshire Conservative MP
Heidi, alongside Jess Phillips, shared an emotional account of her own abortion with parliament earlier this month. In an attempt to reform Northern Ireland's abortion laws, she told the Cambridge independent that she felt she needed to share her story:'I had intended to say it because I had a feeling nobody else would.'I thought it probably needed saying.'I suppose it is very easy to make issues like that just about procedure and legislation and words and policy but, actually, it is about people's lives.'Jess Phillips too opened up about her own abortion, also sharing harrowing stories from women in Northern Ireland who had terminated pregnancies.
4 of 10Stella Creasy, 41, Walthamstow Labour MP
The original lead of cross-party calls for Northern Ireland's abortion laws to be brought in line with the rest of the UK's, Stella received tons of hate mail over her campaign to protect women's right to choose. It was in her call for debate over abortion that Heidi Allen and Jess Philips were able to talk about their own terminations.
5 of 10Penny Mourdant, 45, Portsmouth North Conservative MP
The Minister for Women and Equalities, Penny Mourdant launched the National Action Plan on Women, Peace and Securitywhich calls for more women to be at the centre of the DFID's peace, security and humanitarian programmes. As secretary of state for international development, she has attempted to reform the aid sector by creating an independent safeguarding unit that prevents exploitation. This comes in the wake of a series of sex scandals against leading charities earlier this year.
6 of 10Wera Hobhouse, 58, Bath Liberal Democrat MP
Wera Hobhouse brought Gina Martin's upskirting campaign to parliament as a private members bill set to outlaw the vile crime. While the bill was subsequently blocked by two male MPs, a third reading of the bill is set to continue on the 6th of July with Gina stating 'the Government Bill will become law as it'll get through the later stages more quickly and won't be objected to.'
7 of 10Maria Miller, 54, Basingstoke Conservative MP
It was off the back of the upskirting bill that Maria Miller and Jess Phillips have met with Wera Hobhouse in an attempt to include a revenge porn amendment. It would ensure there was a blanket ban on voyeuristic images regardless of the intention in taking it, as the MPs feared people would attempt to bend the wording of the upskirting law to avoid conviction by arguing they took the image with no intention of causing distress. They also wanted to introduce an amendment that would ban false pornographic images, in which faces are photoshopped onto explicit images. However, they were told it was impossible to introduce further amendments. This comes after Love Island stars Zara McDermott and Laura Anderson became victims of revenge porn this week.
8 of 10Mhairi Black, Paisley and Renfrewshire South SNP MP
As part of the discussion about classing misogyny as a hate crime, Mhairi Black spoke out about the misogynistic and homophobic abuse she receives online every day. She also asked parliament to reflect on their own environment, stating, 'Only a few weeks ago I was physically pressed up against a Member (of Parliament) in the voting lobby who is accused of sexual misconduct because there's so little room.'Acknowledging she has the 'same right and influence as any other elected man', she spoke up for the female staff who aren't in her position.
9 of 10Melanie Onn, 39, Great Grimsby Labour MP
Leading the charge to make misogyny a hate crime, Melanie highlighted the 'link between low-level harassment of women and more serious sexual assaults' that was found by Westminster's all-party group on domestic violence. In her constituency, the rate of domestic violence is particularly high. As a result, she has called for a law change to have misogynistic acts such as wolf-whistling, leering and sexual comments in public to be made a criminal offence.
10 of 10Monica Lennon, 37, Central Scotland Scottish Labour MSP
Monica introduced a Member's Bill into Scottish parliament that would see the creation of free universal access to sanitary products. Proposing also that schools, colleges and universities provide free sanitary products in their toilets, she led the campaign that stands to end period poverty in Scotland.