Kate Hudson has revealed one of her keys parenting rules that she swears by - something she also admits has been a lesson for her.
Speaking on Kylie Kelce’s Not Gonna Lie podcast, Hudson revealed that it's important to say sorry to your kids when you've made a mistake. Hudson has three children, Ryder, 21, Bingham, 13, and Rani, six, with three different fathers, and has previously described her blended family as a 'seriously strong unit.'
So it seems the secret to that strength is putting your prde to one side when you've made a mistake with your kids, according to Hudson. 'The importance of being able to tell your kids that you could do better, I could’ve handled that situation better, actually models much more for them than being stubborn and saying, "No I can’t admit that I was wrong,"' she told Kylie. 'Sometimes in conflict, you go too far, and you need to say you’re sorry. Instead of teaching them that you doubled down. And what you find in going to your kids and saying, "I made a mistake" … that connection becomes stronger.'
Calling herself a 'veteran mother', she touched upon how she had the revelation after reading the “game changer” of a parenting book, The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary, Oprah Winfreypersonally recommended to her. In it, she explained how she was drawn to the idea that 'our own traumas come out while raising our kids' - which she says is something all parents need to be aware of. She even shared a recent example, detailing how she had a 'head butt' moment with Bing of 'I want him to do something, he refuses to do it.'
She continued: 'I got triggered. It wasn’t about him. It was about my own inability to resolve or walk away from the moment that was happening. Instead, I became competitive with my 13-year-old, which is like, ‘Where is that going to get us?’ But it happens all the time as a parent.'
Hudson credited her own parents, Goldie Hawn and Bill Hudson, for having a close relationship with her and her siblings, even while out in public and dealing with paparazzi. 'You are going to mess your kids up. I feel like no matter what you do and how you try to do it, it’s like you’re going to do it wrong. You’re going to make mistakes,' she said. 'At some point, you’re going to do something that’s going to feel traumatising to them that you didn’t realise felt traumatising to them… Even in the most loving, connected, healthy, attached parental situation, you’re still going to mess up.'
This isn't the first time that Hudson has spoken out about parenting. In a previous interview with The Sunday Times she explained how the family was 'killing it' at co-parenting. Going into more detail, Hudson said she and her ex Chris Robinson 'just need to check in once in a while' since Ryder is in college now and she 'couldn't have asked for a better co-parent' in terms of raising Bing with Matt Bellamy.
'For me it's like, you loved this person. That doesn't just go away, but you can re-establish a different kind of love,' she said. 'You can have an amazing time with an ex-partner because you're really only focused on the love of your child.'
Alice Hall is the Staff Writer at Grazia UK. She was previously a Junior Features Writer for The Daily Telegraph. At Grazia, she writes news and features about pop culture, dating, health, politics and interiors.