Who Is Joe Alwyn? Everything You Need To Know About Taylor Swift’s Boyfriend

After five years together, the couple are reportedly engaged.

Joe Alwyn

by Grazia |

Some happy news: Joe Alwyn, long-term bae of Taylor Swift, is rumoured to have popped the question. The Sun have reported that the pair are secretly engaged to be married, with Taylor only wearing the ring in private. Taylor and Joe have been dating for five years, so it seems their fairytale love is for real.

Lest we forget the sweet moment when Swift won her first Best Album Grammy last year in a history-making feat, for her lockdown album Folklore. It was a remarkable achievement, and it also gave the beloved singer the opportunity to give a shout out to her actor boyfriend, Joe . It's the first time she's ever named him in an acceptance speech, which we're seeing as the equivalent of mentioning a boyfriend to our mum for the first time.

'Joe, who is the first person that I play every single song that I write, and I had the best time writing songs with you in quarantine,' the Love Story singer said when picking up the award at the socially distanced ceremony. 'I want to thank—I want to thank James, Inez, and Betty and their parents [Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds] who are the second and third people that I play every new song that I write but mostly, we just want to thank the fans. You guys met us in this imaginary world that we created, and we can’t tell you how honored we are forever by this. Thank you so much, and thank you to the Recording Academy. We will never forget that you did this for us. Thank you so much.'

But who is Joe? How did he meet Taylor? Do they live together? What does he actually do all day? And, most importantly, which songs are about him? These are the answers to the burning questions...

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The publicity-shy Joe Alwyn won't be able to duck the spotlight much longer: he plays Nick (also an actor), the brooding, bashful, and very tall love interest of bookworm Frances (newcomer Alison Oliver). It's an adaptation of Normal People author Sally Rooney's first novel.

Frances develops an all-consuming, and very much requited crush on Nick, while her ex-gf Bobbi enjoys a flirtatious repartee with Nick's wife Melissa. Got it? Good. It's all very steamy, in a vaguely sexless sort of way. For those hoping for a repeated hit of Normal People's lilting Irish brogue, hard luck — it has been 'conspicuously de-Irished', says The Independent.

Yesterday, ahead of the show's air date - Joe's other half Taylor Swift publicly expressed support for her boyfriend in a rare Instagram Story post. She shared a Time's magazine review of the new series on her stories. The singer captioned the rare post, 'Can confirm it's phenomenal,' and added that the series is 'out now.' It debuted later the day.

Did Joe Alwyn write songs on Folklore?

Joe might be an actor - but he now add songwriter to his illustrious CV as Taylor has finally confirmed Joe did help write two of the songs on folklore. After the release of the shock folk album, fans quickly speculated the identity of William Bowery, a songwriter credited on exile and betty - believing that the songwriter in question was Taylor's boyfriend, Joe. And Taylor finally confirmed fans were right in new concert film Folklore: The Long Pond Studio Sessions, which was released on Disney+.

'There’s been a lot of discussion about William Bowery and his identity because it’s not a real person,' Taylor said, adding: 'So, William Bowery is Joe, as we know.' She added that the pair only decided to start writing together as they were isolating together. And they certainly did a good job, as exile - the duet with Bon Iver - was nominated for a Grammy.

What has Joe Alwyn said about dating Taylor Swift?

The couple are very private and they both rarely speak of their romance to the public. However, In an interview Joe opened up about Taylor. Speaking to The Times, when questioned about Taylor writing songs about him he called it 'flattering.'

When asked about the constant media attention surrounding their relationship, Alwyn says, 'I just don’t pay attention to what I don’t want to pay attention to. I turn everything else down on a dial. I don’t have any interest in tabloids. I know what I want to do, and that’s this, and that’s what I am doing'

What has Taylor Swift said about dating Joe Alwyn?

Ever since they started dating in 2017, Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn have kept their relationship firmly private. But, in a interview - with Paul McCartney for Rolling Stone, no less - the singer discussed some of the issues she’s found in setting and maintaining boundaries between her private life and personal one. 'I, oftentimes, in my anxieties, can control how I am as a person and how normal I act and rationalise things, but I cannot control if there are 20 photographers outside in the bushes and what they do and if they follow our car and if they interrupt our lives,' she explained. 'I can't control if there's going to be a fake weird headline about us in the news tomorrow.'

The star added what privacy means to her now, saying: 'I think that in knowing him and being in the relationship I am in now, I have definitely made decisions that have made my life feel more like a real life and less like just a storyline to be commented on in tabloids. Whether that's deciding where to live, who to hang out with, when to not take a picture — the idea of privacy feels so strange to try to explain, but it's really just trying to find bits of normalcy.'

Which Taylor Swift songs are about Joe Alwyn?

Taylor Swift shocked fans when she casually decided to announce she was dropping a surprise album from her time in lockdown. (These popstars sure do know how to be productive, huh?) Quickly, fans even speculated that her boyfriend Joe Alwyn has penned some two of the songs on folklore, as one of the songwriters Taylor credits, William Bowery, has no online profile. Interesting, as Taylor and Joe have been isolating together. (She has since confirmed this was, in fact, the case.)

Bonus track, the lakes, made fans sure that she was referring to their relationship, thanks to the very English lyrics: 'Take me to the lakes, where all the poets went to die / I don't belong and, my beloved, neither do you / Those Windermere peaks look like a perfect place to cry / I'm setting off, but not without my muse.' Cute.

Some of her previous tracks are definitely about him too. London Boy, for instance, is pretty clearly about him. She name checks parts of London like Highgate and Camden which are near his childhood home of Tufnell Park and uses British slag like 'I fancy you'. It's a cracker of a song.

Who is Joe Alwyn?

Though you'd be forgiven for not knowing who the North Londoner is, Joe is an accomplished actor who has slowly been proving himself in Hollywood as a force to be reckoned with. The pair have kept their three-year romance firmly under the radar, even when they both attended last year's Golden Globes (Taylor was presenting, while professional actor Joe attended with the cast of The Favourite), they didn't make their red carpet debut, as many predicted they would. He did attend a Saturday Night Live after party with Taylor, and they left holding hands, but privacy is still the name of the game. So don't worry if you've been asking yourself 'exactly who is Taylor Swift dating?'

How old is Joe Alwyn?

Joe Alwyn is 31 years old. If you need to know, his birthday falls on February 21 (that makes him a Pisces, for you horoscope fans).

What films has he been in?

Relatively speaking Joe is quite new to the scene - which is likely to change soon given that he had roles in some major films including Mary Queen of Scots (in which he plays Robert Dudley, lover and counsellor of Queen Elizabeth) and The Favourite (as Baron Masham, love interest to Emma Stone's Abigail) which has seen him acting alongside the likes of screen royalty including Margot Robbie, Saoirse Ronan and the nationally beloved Olivia Colman. He's also appeared in Harriet, the Oscar-nominated biopic of American abolitionist Harriet Tubman, and a big-budget TV adaptation of A Christmas Carol, playing Tiny Tim's dad Bob Cratchit.

In Boy Erased he plays a pastor's son forced to undergo gay-conversion therapy alongside Nicole Kidman and Russell Crowe, for which W magazine praised him for stealing the show in an interview in October. Director Joel Edgerton said of Joe's acting abilities, 'He reminds me a bit of Brad Pitt, in that he could easily play sweet romantic leads, but he actively seeks roles with a darker quality'.

Furthermore, if the calibre of the films he's been in recently is anything to go by, then based on the fact that they cleaned up in awards ceremonies we predict Joe's acting career is about to blow up. (The Favourite received 10 Oscar nominations and won a Golden Globe, an Oscar along with 7 BAFTAS.)

It could also explain why Joe and Taylor have been so careful to keep their relationship so private - according to sources, at this early stage of his career it's critical Joe's relationship with Taylor doesn't overshadow his professional credits and his agents have allegedly advised them to keep it low key while his career is taking off. But Taylor did show up to support Joe in London during the BAFTAS - and perhaps she was the lucky charm, after the film won a staggering 7 categories at the awards ceremony.

Where is Joe Alwyn from?

A born-and-raised North Londoner Joe Alwyn grew up in both Tufnell Park and Crouch End and was educated at the City of London School and The University of Bristol. He also did his BA in London at the Royal Central School of Speech and Drama. His strong connection to the UK's capital would explain why he and Taylor have been spotted on dates in London a lot (either that or she just really, really wanted to see the London Eye?).

Do Joe Alwyn and Taylor Swift live together?

The couple are so notoriously private and whether or not they share a home is one of the things they've remained tight-lipped about. Although we do know is that Joe has confirmed that he still lives in North London and some reports have suggested that Taylor Swift rented a place nearby and practically lives at his Crouch End house. Aw. The couple were thought to be isolating together during lockdown one, as Joe shared some photos to his Instagram story of Taylor's cat Benjamin Button.

How did Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn meet?

No-one knows for certain, but the first time they showed up to the same place was the Met Gala in 2016, Taylor had a bleached blonde blob leading some to theorize that the lyrics 'Flashback to when you met me/ Your buzz cut/ And my hair bleached' from her 2017 song Dress were about Joe Alwyn.

A month afterwards Taylor broke up with Calvin Harris but swiftly became involved in a short 3-month relationship with Tom Hiddleston. However lots of people also think the couple spoke for the first time at a secret Kings of Leon concert in New York, as this is where they were reported to have officially met.

How tall is Joe Alwyn?

According to the internet, Joe is the kind of person you need around when you have to reach the top cupboards, at a lofty 6ft.

Does Joe Alwyn have Instagram?

He certainly does - you can find him @joe.alwyn but you won't find any pictures of Taylor. The couple have chosen to remain uber-private (maybe because Taylor's romances have had a notoriously tricky relationship with the public eye - after all, everyone deserves their privacy right?)

However in the 37 posts that Joe Alwyn has uploaded you will find sweet pictures of him with The Favourite co-star Olivia Colman and alongside Margot Robbie in Mary, Queen of Scots and he really seems to champion his female co-stars, writing sweet captions like 'Congratulations to Her Majesty' beneath a picture of Olivia Colman receiving her Best Actress Golden Globe. From the rest of his Instagram feed Joe also seems to be outdoorsy with regular pictures of woodland walks, desert runs and cactuses.

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