In Defence Of Publicly Mourning Your Relationship On Social Media

Gemma Collins teaches us another valuable lesson

In Defence Of Publicly Mourning Your Relationship On Social Media

by Phoebe Parke |
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Gemma Collins has posted a series of pictures of her and her ex James Argent on Instagram, just hours after the airing of a show in which he rejected her advances, and an invitation to go to Tenerife.

On the show, Gemma stated a relationship with James would ‘complete her life’, and broke down in tears in a cab on the way to the airport.

The TOWIE stars reportedly dated on and off for 7 years, much of which was documented on the show.

‘Guys we all have to shut the book in life just happy times reflecting on that you just have to say goodbye too but just happy memories,’ reads the caption of the first picture Gemma shared.

‘We all started out together 6 years ago and noone outside the Towie bubble will get it but i do love Towie and my friends on the show always it’s been a journey we have all learnt and grown since the show stated our lives have changed sometimes you just cling on to memories.’

Is this how we should’ve been dealing with rejection from an ex this whole time?

First of all, there is no ‘normal’ way to deal with rejection and heartbreak.

Some people hide themselves away with some sad films and several tubs of ice cream, others start going out more than they ever did and meeting new people, but one thing that very few of us seem to do is broadcast our heartbreak on social media.

It’s seen as the very opposite of what you should be doing.

We’ve romanticised 'the breakup' by celebrating celebrities and their post breakup glow ups – see Kourtney Kardashian, Karrueche Tran and more recently La La Anthony.

Or even further back – Sandy Olsson in Grease.

The formula is, he breaks up with you, you say nothing about it publicly, then you emerge just days later having shed your relationship cloak to reveal a thinner, glossier, sexier you – preferably posting a picture to capture this new-found shininess on Instagram or getting pictures in a major publication so your ex will see them.

But what if we don’t want to glow up?

What if, just like Gemma Collins, we want to post pictures of our ex all over Instagram and mourn the relationship in public, reminisce on the good times and reflect on how foolish we were.

If you’re a celebrity everyone is likely to already know you’ve broken up with your partner, so you can either say something or say nothing, and it’s better to post pictures on Instagram than call him an obscene amount of times, right?

We’ve already told you that Gemma Collins is our 2017 hero, she’s honest, she’s brash, and she really doesn’t care what you think of her. Maybe we should all take a leaf out of her book and stop taking ourselves so seriously.

And what on earth is wrong with posting a throwback picture? Some people do it every. single. Thursday.

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This article originally appeared on The Debrief.

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