Ok, just in case you don’t know who Andrew WK is, he’s a metal-head from New York who likes to party and considers himself such a party aficionado that earlier this year he gave a talk at Oxford Union about The Philosophy of Partying. The most famous photo is of him is the one on the front of his Party Hard album where his nose is bleeding all the way down his face and his shoulder-length hair is all sweaty and sticky, some of it in the blood. We saw him do a gig once and it was terrifying.
Anyway, Andrew also writes an advice column for the Village Voice, and a recent post where he gives some awesome advice to a 'lovesick girl' who's being treated like shit by her boyfriend, has gone viral. It's so good. In it, the girl writes: ‘I'm a 15 year old girl in my first serious relationship and I don't really know if I'm doing it right.
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‘I try to make my boyfriend happy…but a lot of the times I feel bad about myself and uncomfortable because of the things he says to me.’
She continued: ‘I just have this feeling of not being good enough and it makes me feel self conscious, like I’m not pretty enough. He asked me to dress more like the models in magazines even though I don’t look anything like them and never could…I don’t want to say anything to him because I really don’t want to be a bitch of make him mad.’
Andrew’s response was long, heartfelt and thoughtful, as passionate in his views about this douchebag as his views on partying. He said: ‘You're a wonderful, special, and beautiful person who deserves to be treated with respect, kindness, and love. No matter how much you may care about your boyfriend, and no matter how much he says he loves you, you should never be made to feel ugly, or pressured into acting or dressing a certain way or doing anything that makes you feel bad. You should be able to be yourself.’
He also said that she should definitely say something to him, because ‘Even though it can feel very awkward and uncomfortable, a true relationship requires you to be open and able to talk about anything and everything. It especially requires you to be able to tell him when he's hurting you. And if he really does love you, then hurting you would be the last thing he'd ever want to do.’
Andrew also explained that just because the girl’s boyfriend isn’t hitting her, doesn’t mean she’s not being abused by him in some way: ‘No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship. And just because you're not being hit and beaten doesn't mean you're not being abused. No amount of love is worth any amount of abuse.’ .
Which is pretty enlightening, and really flips our expectations of how seriously a hard rocker will tackle a young girl’s feelings. But then again, we probably should have been questioning that stereotype of thuggish knuckle-dragging mosher ever since that bloke out of Stain’d had a go at some louts in the crowd of one of his festival gigs for being too touchy feely with a girl (video below) a couple of months ago.
What next? Fred Durst taking back all the mean stuff he used to say about Christina Aguilera and Britney Spears? We can but hope.
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This article originally appeared on The Debrief.